Of Widows and Violence: Bapsi Sidhwa's 'Water' is heartbreaking but necessary

So this was a pretty interesting project, in that this book was commissioned to supplement the movie. I’m sure, in retrospect, that there must be multiple other examples of this particular scenario, but what makes this one interesting are the interwoven links between the visual and the written medium for this particular series. Deepa Mehta (the film director of the movie version of this book) is actually most popular for her Elements Trilogy, the first part of which, a movie called Earth, was based on Bapsi Sidhwa’s novel Cracking India. In return, when Metha directed this movie, Sidhwa wrote the novel.

It’s a nice little give and take between different spheres of storytelling which appeals to my Mass Communications graduate side, since it allows both kinds of art lovers, the viewers and the readers, to enjoy the same art depending upon their tastes. And even though movie adaptations are all the rage these days, there’s something particularly pleasing to me about the idea of two women, the director and the author, choosing to tackle controversial, bold topics while supporting each other in their artistic endeavours.

And controversial this book must have been, given that it is talking about the treatment of widows in pre-partition India. While Gandhi and politics forms part of the background, it is truly the story of an eight-year-old child bride named Chuyia (Why, though? Why name your child a literal mouse?! Sometimes parental decisions make absolutely zero sense). Chuyia is married off when she’s SIX YEARS OLD, in a super wtf moment, even more horrifying because within the setting of the story her parents, and especially her father, seem to think it a great decision to be marrying off their very tiny daughter.

“A girl is destined to leave her parents’ home early or she will bring disgrace to it. She is safe and happy only in her husband’s care.”

Early marriages have always been a plague of South Asian communities, and it’s only the law these days which prevents a significant number of families from marrying off their very young daughters. Even now, a lot of people marry their girls with fake birth certificates, or with the argument that as long as her guardians give approval, it’s alright (and I say this with experience, having seen our maid’s daughter married at 13, with two kids at 16). Overall, it’s a convoluted mess of interpreted-as-convenient religious teachings (ironically enough, both Hindus and Muslims, who seem to disagree on a very basic level about the number of gods, seem very eager to agree on the concept of early marriages) and a patriarchal culture that really, really likes to view women solely as child-producing and house-cleaning machines. In fact, I’m pretty sure one could easily write a story about a Muslim girl caught in the same situation, because Islamic teachings can and have been manipulated for the same sick purposes since years.

“In the Brahmanical tradition,” said Somnath, “a woman is recognized as a person only when she is one with her husband. Only then does she become a sumangali, an auspicious woman, and a saubhagyavati, a fortunate woman.”

But the child marriage isn’t even the worst part of the whole tale. Even before Chuyia has started menstruating and is thus still living with her parents instead of her forty-four-year-old husband, he passes away. Thus, at eight years old, Chuyia is declared a widow, and sent to live in an ashram. Her head is shaved, she’s given a single piece of unstitched cloth to wear, and unceremoniously shoved into a place filled with women of all shapes and sizes, all bound together by one single fact: a dead husband.

I’m not really going to spend a lot of time going over how sickening all of that is. It’s disturbing on so many levels, and even more so because treating widows like discarded material is a still a common practice today. But the book doesn’t really spend too much time focusing on Chuyia’s bad luck. It instead brings our attention to the characters in the Ashram: the iron-fisted Madhumati, the sycophantic Kunti, the patient and wise Shakuntala, and the beautiful Kalyani, whose lack of baldness is explained by her furtively being bartered as a prostitute. For a book with such a heavy topic, it would have been easy to be didactic, but it’s fascinating how quickly the plot keeps moving forward, ensuring we are propelled along as a young Gandhi-lover falls for Kalyani, aided by Chuyia’s role in the love story.

As a protagonist, Chuyia is an interesting pair of eyes to view the story from, because she is inherently naïve, and unable to view the misogynistic, unfair world that she resides in from the perspective of an adult. Thankfully, the point of view does shift to other people, who can tell a different version of the story, and who provide greater insight into the lives and desires of those who live in or are connected to the ashram.

“You must take care of yourself,” Madhumati cooed, and Kalyani noticed she was stroking her thigh. “You are the jewel of this house,” the woman said, gazing at her fondly. “If you are happy, our clients are happy. And when they’re happy, I am happy!”

Kalyani couldn’t take it any more. “This is an ashram, didi, not a brothel,” she said quietly.

There is also bound to be some politics in any book based in the 1940’s in the subcontinent. Ignoring the politics of that decade is almost impossible, given how tumultuous it was and how huge an impact it had on the futures of two separate countries. But I love books like these, which bring the political down to a very personal level. I had expected that the politics would mostly stay in the background, but the ending really does fold the story into the upheaval of the subcontinent, with a climax that is heart-breaking but that I really should have seen coming, given the tone of the whole narrative, and how brutal the lives of the women within the tale truly are.

“Outside of marriage the wife has no recognized existence in our tradition. A woman’s role in life is to get married and have sons. That’s why she is created: to have sons! That is all!”

Honestly, at the end of the day it’s hard to say whether the book measures up to the movie, mainly because I haven’t seen it. It’s entirely possible that the book is a sub-par effort at describing what the movie tries to express. But on its own, the book is a great read, albeit horrifying on multiple levels. Still, I’m a proponent of reading things that make you uncomfortable, if only to get over your own privilege, and there can be no greater privilege than to be born a woman protected by time and space from the dictates of a society which could potentially decide that an eight-year-old deserved to be cast aside for being a widow. Things aren’t great, but they’re getting better in some places, and at the end that’s all we can hope for.